PART 1: What is this ‘connection with yourself’?
By Evi Dekker-Weger (New Mama’s)
More and more we hear about the connection we have with ourselves and that this can help to discover and express our authentic self, but what is this connection actually? How can we find it? And how do we know that we are actually connected with ourselves and make decisions from there?
This is part 1 of a blog series of 3, and in this part I will answer all the questions above and share useful tips with you on how to not only connect and strengthen the connection with yourself more often, but also how you can tap into the wisdom within you to approach difficult decisions and challenges in the right way for you.
Before we get started with practical tips and clarifying exercises, I would like to take you through what this ‘connection with yourself’ actually is and how you can consciously recognize it.
Questions to yourself
Just as you have relationships with the people around you, you also have a very important relationship with yourself. While we are usually aware of the relationships with our family, friends and acquaintances, we are less often aware of the relationship we have with ourselves and how we shape it. To look at it consciously, you could therefore ask yourself the following questions, for example:
– How do I talk to myself?
– How do I make myself feel?
– What do the decisions I make affect myself?
– How do I treat myself compared to other relationships?
– What do I do to make the relationship with myself fun and loving?
Besides the fact that we can pay much more attention to these questions and the relationship with ourselves, by asking these questions we also seek the connection with the deeper layers of ourselves and our core: the place where our deep, inexhaustible, inner wisdom is hidden. . There you will find the answers to all your questions, to all those questions that only you can answer, to all those decisions that only you can make.
This is also the reason why I think it is so important to share this with you. If you know how to use the connection with yourself to answer your life questions in your own way and thus dare to trust your inner wisdom more and more, then you have everything in your hands to be able to live your most authentic life. With this you not only enrich your own life, but also the life of your environment and you can create a ‘ripple effect’ for everyone on this earth, which you may not even be aware of.
Enjoy the process
But now back to the connection and how you can investigate whether you live and act in connection with your authentic self. Before I tell you more about it, something important: So far I have not met anyone who is always completely in touch with himself and who only and completely dares to trust his or her inner compass. So if you are reading this now, if you feel that you have become disconnected from yourself or that you are currently completely disconnected – that is totally okay and normal. Allow yourself to embrace this and take small steps from this place. How nice is it if you experience more connection in a while and how great if you can consciously start this whole process now! Give yourself time, relax and enjoy the new discoveries that come your way.
Create the life that suits you
We often organize our lives according to what seems logical, to what we can understand and we solve challenges by using our smart mind. There is of course nothing wrong with this, only there is a lot more outside our heads. There are many more processes, connections and solutions that are beyond our heads and that we cannot understand at first with the logical tools that we are given.
Perhaps you recognize the following: You have a feeling about something or in a kind of flash of thought something comes to your mind. It makes you happy and enthusiastic, but you also immediately think of 10 reasons why it is not possible, why it is inconvenient, why it is not the right time, why it will not work and why it is better not to do it. Often this is the end of our beautiful inspiration and we move on with our lives.
If that feels good to you and if you’re not curious about what would happen if you gave that idea a chance, then that’s perfectly fine, of course, but – and I know that from experience, and I’m sure you should too – it’s not. always like this. Maybe your hunch will come back to your mind a little more often or things will happen that try to bring you back and ask you to pay more attention to it. And then I would like to encourage you to investigate and fully understand and feel what you are allowed to do.
Do you get – despite all the doubts, worries and fears – very excited and happy when you think about it? Then try one
to take a step in this direction. And also feel what happens in you when you think about leaving it and not examining it. Does that feel nice and relaxed or do you feel a kind of disappointment coming on?
Personally, I often describe the connection with myself, the connection with my inner wisdom as a soft but at the same time powerful voice or feeling that is very clear, loving and clear, but often also illogical – something that I cannot fully understand in my head.
While I experience the thoughts from my head as logical, sometimes somewhat unclear, strict orders, which I can fully follow and understand, but which often also arise from fear or uncertainty.
At the same time, trusting our inner wisdom takes courage, because we have to leave our comfort zone and often go against the advice of our environment, who cannot understand our decisions. As a result, we are quickly inclined to base decisions on our rational thoughts, in order to face less resistance from ourselves and our environment.
But as you know, you especially grow if you look up resistance and dare to leave your comfort zone – and then create your most beautiful life.
So living in connection with yourself is certainly not always the easiest way and you will encounter great doubts, challenges and resistance if you make the decision to follow your authentic path and your enthusiasm against all advice and logic. It takes courage and self-confidence and at the same time allows it to grow with every step you dare to take.
Living in connection with yourself not only means that you can create the most beautiful life for yourself, but also that you can have a huge positive impact on many other lives.
In connection with yourself, in connection with your inner wisdom, so much more is possible than the smartest mind could ever imagine – will you take the plunge?
In the next part of this series I will share three simple tips with you on how to strengthen the connection with yourself and in the last part I will discuss how you can deal with the challenges that a life in connection brings and how you will succeed – even if you experience resistance – to continue to follow your authentic path.
Do you already want to know more and get started with clarifying exercises and valuable tips? Then sign up for the free online masterclass CONNECTION – The connection with yourself, which you can follow wherever and whenever you need it.
Love and until the next blog,
Evi – New Mamas