Outrageous kickstart

by Monique (Schandalige Vrouwen)

By means of this kickstart I show you how you can (re) get in touch with yourself and how you can get a clear picture of who you are and what you have to do!

They are the first steps to get moving, because you can always start! Instead of asking yourself ‘It has to be different, but how?’ start in small steps with what you do know. The rest will come naturally! I promise

STEP 1 Dare to trust your intuition again. Date with yourself

Women possess a tremendously valuable dose of intuition and feminine power. However, we have been taught that for every choice we want to make, we must have a clear reason, rather than relying on our gut feeling to point us in the right direction. Or that we have to work with the same amount of energy and decisiveness every day to achieve our goal, instead of listening to our body and using our energy more intelligently. We suppress our feminine power and wave our intuition away and that is such a shame! And it is no longer necessary.

To organize your life in a way that brings out the very best for YOU, you have to learn to trust your intuition (again) and use your feminine power so that it also works for YOU!

From now on you plan 1 hour per week for yourself and you look for silence to make contact with yourself. This can be done in many ways, a walk in nature, an extended bath, writing it off, or meditating. Does it sound too floaty to you? Go do it first, then we’ll talk. You take yourself seriously and that’s why you never miss a date. You are also not allowed to do anything for someone else during this appointment! (so you don’t fold the laundry in silence, for example)

“Her intuition was her favorite superpower. ”

Step 2 Writing assignments

The following writing assignments ensure that you listen to your feelings without judgment, blockages or convictions and that you give this space on paper. You can easily carry out these assignments during the dates with yourself, but you can of course plan this completely differently.

  • What makes you happy?

That’s right! This is a very simple question. But is the answer to this simple? Can you write down without hesitation, expectations and beliefs what makes you happy? Bring it on!

  • What do you dream of?

If you start today with what makes you happy, it doesn’t mean you can’t have dreams anymore. You can ALWAYS dream! Dream big and remember, to get to your dream you are in exactly the right place. All your dreams may be there. They don’t make you selfish. They can be there, even if you don’t think you need them at all. Shamelessly write down all your dreams!

  • What are you good at?

Now look at yourself. Everything, or at least a lot, of what comes easily to you, you take for granted. What comes so easily to you that it no longer even feels like a talent or where you think: everyone can do that!? Not so! Everyone, including you, has natural talents. Use these glasses to write down what you are good at!

  • What do you also want to be good at?

Write down your beliefs that you want to let go because they are not true, or no longer serve you. Then write down what you also want to be good at, now that you have let go of these beliefs.

  • What are your fears?

You may now be thinking: “How am I going to get it all done? What if it doesn’t work? What if no one is waiting for me? What if…” Very logical and normal. But it’s a shame to let you get in the way. Without fear, no growth. It is good to be aware of your fears so that you can recognize them faster and make a different decision at that moment. What’s stopping you from growing? Write on those fears!

“Do one thing every day that scares you!”

  • Make choices!

Step by step you come (again) closer to yourself. You take yourself seriously, by making time and space and checking with yourself what makes you happy. What you still dream of, what you are already very good at, what is holding you back and what fears can help you on your way. And now? Action in the taxi! What choice can you make today to take immediate action?

Make a choice and go for it. You don’t have to know everything and it doesn’t have to be perfect. Make a choice, no matter how small, and it will flow. You start moving and from that movement answers and new insights come your way. You can and may always go back after your choice. Turning right now doesn’t mean you can never turn left again. Why not? Is that a rule? What will they think of you going left after all? Does it matter? At least you tried. You have moved and you have grown.

You are that powerful outrageous woman who freely and shamelessly chooses for herself.

Has your fire been lit and are you ready to choose even greater and more outrageous for yourself? Do you have your dream clear and can you use some help to make rigorous choices to realize it? Do you want to reorganize your life, so that you come into its own in this, but could you use a kick in the ass?

I am here for you darling!

I turned my life around, threw certainties overboard and started living again. My way! It is possible, also for you.

Take a look at, send me a DM or email: ( and I’ll be there.  

Part I Transformation to Motherhood

by Madelon Lutgert – Plante (Hello Woman)

Become a mother. One is born for it, the other slowly grows into it. The transformation from woman to mother is earth-shifting and natural at the same time

In the journey to motherhood you go through all phases. The beginning is different for everyone; a conversation with your partner about your wish to have children, an unexpected positive test, a long-term fertility process, an adoption process. Every woman has her own unique story. Yet for every woman, however your journey, there is a common denominator.


The process of becoming a mother. Finally, a word that can be used to describe the physical, psychological and emotional changes that women undergo during the transformation into motherhood. Despite the magnitude of this change, the focus is often still on the baby. Appointments with your obstetrician or gynecologist are generally about the progress of your pregnancy and help is only called in if there are psychological problems. Amazing, because matrescence is comparable in intensity to adolescence. Do you remember that confusing and exciting period when you were growing from childhood to adulthood?

Adolescence and matrescence are both periods of body and hormone changes that lead to a revolution in how you feel emotionally as a person and how you relate to the world. And like adolescence, matrescence isn’t a disease, but the big difference between the two is that matrescence comes with chronic sleep deprivation and learning-on-the-job, while caring for a hugely affectionate creature.

Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers – strong, competent, capable mothers, who trust themselves and know their inner strength – Barbara Katz Rothman

86% of all women in the world go through matrescence, only a few can define what this means. In this blog I would like to inform you about this special transition period. So that you can feel more supported during this period.

Matrescence is both oppressive and liberating in nature. It is an experience characterized by a range of changes on different planes;

  • Physical – changes in body, hormonal fluctuations;
  • Psychological – identity, personality, patterns, self-confidence;
  • Social – evaluation of friendships, connection with loved ones, gain in social status or loss of professional status;
  • Spiritual – asking existential questions, commitment to your faith, need for spiritual rituals.

You may realize that motherhood is sometimes oppressive and confusing, in addition to all the joy and love. Your unique journey to motherhood will create a new sense of trust. One that is more resilient, more compassionate, more humble, more mindful and more connected than you ever thought possible. Just as a teen may dream of the simplicity of being a child again, as a mother you may dream of the “simplicity” of just being a woman again. But just as an adult does not want to return to the child, as a mother and the woman you have become, you do not want to return to who you were before.

Motherhood is a process of becoming rather than achieving. It takes time and patience. This process is inherent in a certain suffering, although motherhood is predominantly described as a period of stress; ‘enjoy every moment’. Of course motherhood has many beautiful moments, moments when we feel that our hearts can burst with love. AND it also brings suffering. A dark side. Our culture says that if we’re not happy and positive, there’s something wrong with us that needs to be fixed. If you’re feeling sad, angry, or otherwise suffering, we’re sending the message that you’re just one fix or positive affirmation away from your ideal self.

537 / 5000 Vertaalresultaten I think what mothers really need is to be held emotionally, with attention and compassion. Non-judgmental, compassionate support that puts the mother and baby first. Prioritize the well-being of both. As a mother, you need people who believe in you, who make you feel like you know the answer and only need help to arrive at your own answer. You need people around you who can normalize the suffering that comes with motherhood without solving your challenges.

You are welcome with your whole being.

Why living in connection is difficult (and how you can still do it)

By Evi Dekker-Weger (Nieuwe Mama’s) 

In my 2 previous blogs you gained more insight into the connection with yourself and how you can consciously look for it more often. You may have already started working on it in the meantime and have applied some of the tips. Was it easy for you or did you run into blockages? You may even have the feeling that living in connection isn’t quite as easy and fun as you expected. That’s fine and certainly doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong: I got you!

I write this blog for a reason, of course: I want to challenge you to persevere and not to lose heart, especially when it feels exciting or you feel that the whole life in connection is not for you. If you keep playing with it and give it a chance, the most beautiful things can happen for you and a lot will change (positive).

Growing Yourself

We hear so often that if we live in connection with ourselves and really listen to our dreams and desires, anything is possible and we can create our most beautiful life. And although I largely agree with this, I also think it is very important to add that it does not have to feel that way right away and that you will certainly not manifest your most beautiful life from today to tomorrow without any effort by only to be in touch with yourself. Organizing your life by relying completely on your inner wisdom takes courage, a lot of trust and taking difficult choices.

It also means that you can get to know yourself completely, bring out everything in yourself, dare to look at all fears, all doubts and all ugly sides of yourself. It is certainly not the route with fewer obstacles, pain, frustration and of least resistance. But what it certainly is is the path that will bring you satisfaction, allow yourself to grow and prosper, and the path is for you to map out all by yourself – however you wish.

Jumping without a plan

I mention this to tell you that you are meant to encounter bumps, frustrations and pain if you trust your gut feeling. Making exciting choices and having bloody honest conversations are also part of this. Seeing traits you don’t like about yourself and uttering words that someone else might not appreciate; listening to what you feel and trusting the decisions you make – even if they don’t seem logical and you may not be understood by those around you; it’s all part of it.

Just like discovering new talents, special qualities, hidden treasures; living adventures and gaining experiences that you would never have had if you had not followed your heart, had not mustered the courage, had not dared to jump without plan and control.

let it go

Letting go in particular can be an enormous challenge. Living from connection invites you to let go of control over what seemed controllable until now; it asks you to let go of that which seemed safe to that which excites you; it shows you that what felt certain was never certain and that sometimes taking a risk is the only way to experience more love and happiness. In addition, it asks you to look at your life from a different perspective, to be open to new insights and it gives you the opportunity to rearrange everything according to your own rules and conditions – to live your way.

Fall and rise

This can evoke a sense of freedom and curiosity, but it can also feel unstable, risky and insecure. It can be both: the enthusiasm next to the uncertainty, the curiosity next to the fear, the freedom next to the desire for stability and security.

Living from connection – as you can see and perhaps have experienced yourself – is not just about roses. It is difficult and can be full of challenges, especially in the beginning – when you are still so attached to living in apparent security and in the way you are used to. It may also be hard for you, because as soon as you dare to be honest with yourself and your environment, you will notice that your honesty is not always appreciated and it can be very tempting to shoot back into old patterns. Know that that too is not a disaster! It’s only logical and human. I don’t know (and am) no one who manages to always and at any time of the day make all the choices from connection or to choose consciously. Sometimes I find it ridiculously tiring and laborious and I’ve had it with all that growing, developing and listening to my feelings, but in the end I always return to it – because I know that this is the only way I can be my authentic self and can realize my desires.

No short cuts

If someone promises you that it’s easy, that it takes no effort and that life in connection is only fun and enjoyable

If it is valid, then you are almost certain that the person has never tried to really live in connection. That’s why I can’t stand all those ‘happiness gurus’ who tell you that anything is possible if you just believe in it. Don’t get me wrong: Visualizing and manifesting are powerful and beautiful tools to create your most beautiful life, but without taking the bumps, looking at dark sides, without courage and confidence, without actually taking steps, you will get there. do not come!

There is no short cut and no quick fix. It’s all part of it and we can only grow in it if we are willing to learn the lessons that come with it.

How can you deal with it when things go wrong or if you experience a setback, despite having trusted your gut so much?

Be aware and listen to what is happening in you at that moment. What feelings arise? Where does the pain or frustration come from? What lesson can you learn in this?

Give yourself permission to be angry, tired, sad… and feel the pain and then try to return to the connection with yourself to re-tune and listen to the answers to the answers you need.

Being aware of this and seeking the connection is an ongoing process and there will also be periods when you feel the connection less or have no need to look for it. Do not expect too much of yourself and give yourself the space to discover how you want to fill in this process – that is of course also possible in your own way.

My last tip is therefore: keep trying it, play with it, see what this process may look like for you and give yourself all the time to discover what works for you.

Keep looking for the connection and be amazed!

If you have any questions, you can always send me an email at:, I like to think along with you if you get stuck in something.

And if you want to deepen the connection with yourself through valuable insights and clarifying exercises, sign up hier for the  FREE masterclass: CONNECTION – The Connection with yourself, which you can do at your own pace, where and when you need it (online) can follow.

Love and trust your process,

Evi – New Mamas

Do you recognize this? Sometimes motherhood is more about surviving rather than living fully.

By Annelies

Do you recognize this? Sometimes (working) motherhood is more about surviving instead of living fully…

When you were pregnant you probably had ideas about motherhood, what it would be like and how you would implement it. You have arranged a nice crèche or childminder and you may be taking some extra leave. And you’ve decided never let your children have breakfast in front of the TV… Certain things you would do exactly as your parents did. Other things you would do very differently because you have your own ideas about it.

But in real live it turns out to be so different from what you had previously thought. Something with theory and practice.

When you have just given birth, it is of course fan-tas-tic to finally be able to hold your little one in your arms. But it is also, very often, looking for a new rhythm with the three of you. And there are sometimes factors that can make that first period extra difficult. Maybe giving birth was tough and the physical recovery also takes its time. Or did you want to give your baby breastfeed but that doesn’t go the way you hoped. Does your little one cry a lot and you have no idea why. And even if everything goes very well with your child, it is a period of searching for a new balance as a family. And with each subsequent child, it is also a search for a new rhythm with each other.

If you have found a bit of routine as a new mother, you often start working again fairly quickly, and you have to switch again. Perhaps you are one of those mothers who are really looking forward to going back to work. So that you can have something for yourself again and maybe you are dreading having to go back to work and leave your little one with someone else. But however you stand, the inevitable moment when you have to go back to work will come anyway. And just to reassure you, before you know it you’ll be back in the rhythm and you as a family are used to this new situation.

But then there are so many things that you “MUST” do…that as a mother you quickly slide down…..

– you take care of your child(ren),
– you have to work,
– the household has to be done,
– you still have a social life and want to maintain it,
– you have to exercise to stay fit

The result is that you often get out of bed tired and that the days almost seem to pass by. You might even ask yourself, ‘Is this it? Being a mother and how I had envisioned it?”.

You are surviving instead of living to the fullest!

But know that there is another way! Motherhood is the perfect entrance for your personal development and growth. If you are willing to really explore what is important to you and what matters to you in life, now is the perfect opportunity

And if you dare to seize this opportunity, you will go from survival to living life to the fullest!

In this first article I challenge you to do some self-examination. This will help you in order to change things. The following articles will help you to make sure the changes are permanent.

Are you ready?!… Let’s get started:

Before you start, make sure you take some time for yourself. Make sure you are in a place where you cannot be disturbed, put your mobile on silent and put on some nice music. Make sure you have a nice cup of tea or coffee and a pen and paper so you can write.

I would like to ask you to do a writing exercise based on ‘Flow’ writing. How does that work… You are supposed to write about a certain topic for about 10 minutes continuously. I’ll give you the topic you can write about. If you have no idea what to write, just write that. The intention is to keep writing so that you really write from your feelings and your intuition. Do not get too much in your head. It often provides wonderful insights into your way of thinking and helps you to make decisions.

If this is new to you, know that the often you do this the easier it will be. In the beginning it can take a little time. And know that there is no right or wrong but that it is really your process.

The sentence you can write about is the following:

The grade I give to my current life is a…. Because….(write!)

ps. It’s not necessarily about the number, but what the number stands for.

If you like you can share the insights with me via I am curious whether you are satisfied with your current life situation. Or you are mainly surviving instead of living. If you have any questions about the exercise or about the results of the exercise, feel free to email me or send a DM via instagram @coachannelief. I would like to think along with you.

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3 simple tips to strengthen the connection with yourself

PART 2: 3 simple tips to strengthen the connection with yourself By Evi Dekker-Weger (Nieuwe Mama’s)

In my last blog I discussed what the ‘connection with yourself’ means and how you can (re) find it. As promised, in this new blog I share how you can strengthen the connection with yourself in 3 simple ways and make more frequent contact with your ‘inner voice’.

You have probably heard or felt your inner voice – a soft, powerful direction indicator within yourself – before. Maybe you often follow her advice, maybe you ignore it because it seems too exciting, too illogical or too risky – but chances are you know exactly what I’m talking about.

My story When I first became aware of this powerful feeling I didn’t know what to do with it. Her advice felt right, but on the other hand, it didn’t suit me at all. It didn’t fit into my life, I would have to adjust everything and every step I came up with would take away all stability and certainty – I (who loved certainty and preferably had a plan for every situation) was of course not going to do that !

In this way I continued to follow what felt logical, clear and safe to me – until I encountered myself hard. I was in a relationship that felt safe, but that I didn’t love enough from the beginning. I was studying to prove something, without being really passionate about the subject. I did what I thought I had to do because everyone else did it and got so used to it that I had no idea what I really wanted.

Slowly the feeling in myself became bigger and stronger. I felt trapped, increasingly unhappy and couldn’t ignore it no matter how hard I tried.

I had no choice but to be brave and follow my gut. That’s how I left my boyfriend and with that the group of friends I had been part of for 5 years. Later I went on a trip, emigrated to the Netherlands and eventually also stopped my studies. I left everything behind, had no idea what the future was going to look like and I had no plan A or B for the first time.

However, as soon as I had let go of everything, there was room for the new, for what my ‘inner voice’ had been talking about all along. The reward for this difficult, brave leap came in the form of my dream man, my family, new friendships, new opportunities and the best part: more confidence in myself and my feelings.

Of course, I don’t always manage to be completely guided by my feelings. I still find it exciting and often illogical, but I am increasingly able to be aware of what is being asked of me and to trust that it will work out, even if there is no plan.

Three techniques In the meantime I have also discovered 3 simple ways that help me to restore and strengthen the connection with myself, when I get stuck, get frustrated and notice that I find it difficult to listen to my inner voice.

I would like to share these 3 techniques with you, which you can apply anytime and anywhere:

1. BREATH When you feel restless and experience inner tension, this is one of the easiest techniques to apply right away: Stand still or sit for a while, close your eyes and breathe in and out 3 times deeply. Focus only on your breathing and your heart rate. Perhaps soothing words arise, you see colors before you or feelings arise that you can listen to.

This is one of the most powerful exercises to immediately experience the connection with yourself again.

2. FOLLOW THE JOY Sometimes we feel like everything is going wrong. We are late for an appointment, coffee spills on our newly put on shirts, the dishwasher suddenly breaks down, our genius idea is not understood and the work meeting turns out differently than we had hoped. Instead of following the tendency (which we often have) to immediately fix everything and come up with a plan B as quickly as possible – the solution sometimes lies in slowing down and letting go. Stop running and stick to your schedule and do something that makes you happy. It doesn’t have to be useful and it doesn’t have to be profitable. Ask yourself: What do I want to do now? What would make me happiest now? Trust your gut and let’s go!

This way you not only reconnect with yourself, but you also open your heart and mind to creativity and solutions that are less obvious, but which you may be much more enthusiastic about.

3. CHILD’S POSE When we had recently had a stressful day and both my youngest son and I were tired and overstimulated, he got angry before I put him to bed. Crying and furious, he went into child’s pose and there was no way I could change him. I got frustrated, but when I saw him lying there like that I thought: ‘Hm, that seems pretty nice to me too!’ I lay down next to him in the same position and within a few minutes we were both calm again and I was able to put him to bed effortlessly and relaxed. If you don’t remember the next time and have lost the connection with yourself, try this pose for a few minutes and feel how you slowly strengthen the connection with yourself

I hope these tips can help you to feel the connection with yourself again more often and to strengthen your confidence in this.

If you have any questions, you can always send me an email at:, I like to think along with you if you get stuck in something.

And if you want to deepen the connection with yourself through valuable insights and clarifying exercises, sign up here for the FREE masterclass: CONNECTION – The connection with yourself, which you can do at your own pace, where and when you need it (online ) can follow.

In the next (and last) blog of this series I will tell you more about the challenges you can encounter if you start living more and more from your feelings and how you can overcome them.

Love and until the next blog,

Evi – New Mamas

Clarity gives so much back

By: Wilma van Dijk

clear is kind
For both yourself and others!

Do you recognize those moments when halfway through a meeting you say ‘Oh sorry, I didn’t get around to that…’ or when you say to your husband ‘Oh sorry, I’ll help you with the kids, but I have to finish this email…’ or that you cancel a date with a friend at the last minute because you really don’t like it… or that you are just tired of keeping all the balls high? Then you are not alone.

Whether you as a mother are looking for more balance or want to live more ‘in the now’ or just want to go to the next level… it all starts with being honest and clear.

Honesty about your agenda.
Honesty about your feelings.
Honesty about your energy.
Honesty about everything.
Clarity about what you can and can’t do on this day.
Clarity about what your priorities are.
Clarity about what to expect from you right now in this situation with this question.
Clarity about what you want.

Loving clarity:
My name is Wilma van Dijk, owner of Bold Coaching and Advice.

As a leadership coach, I help female leaders in education, healthcare and business to be the courageous leaders that the Netherlands so badly needs. And courage requires honesty and clarity. Many of my clients are managers and mothers. We often make the comparison with motherhood and parenting.

We also discuss various myths surrounding the themes of being clear and honest. As women, we tend to think that we are not nice or not loving once we are honest and clear with ourselves and the other.

Brené Brown puts it so beautifully in her book ‘Dare to Lead’:

“Sometimes speaking the truth feels like we are being unkind, especially when sharing difficult information or feedback. But in reality, dancing around the truth is unkind. When we avoid stating the truth – when we are vague or ambiguous under the guise of being kind – it is often because we are trying to lessons the discomfort for ourselves, not for the other person.”

I believe in something I call “loving clarity”. If you are very clear to your child that he is not allowed to cross the road or you even stop him.. then you agree with me that you are absolutely loving as a mother because you protect your child from the cars on the busy road . So you can be very clear and honest and be loving. Just don’t confuse loving with a nice feeling and always say YES. A YES sounds better and gives a nicer feeling, but sometimes the NO is more important.

The YES sounds better, but sometimes the NO is more important.

Sometimes you want to say yes to your girlfriend for a nice night out, but sometimes the no is the right answer so that you can say yes another time. A resounding yes that you know you can fully enjoy because it’s right now.

Three steps that work in every stage of motherhood:
As a just-started mother, a lot comes at you and from experience I can tell you, that will never stop. Because when one phase closes, you enter another phase. Our oldest Daniel will be 4 years old in July and that means that we have got a little more freedom and we don’t have to watch him every minute, but with going to school new things come to us. Children’s parties, school trips, play appointments and soon swimming lessons and sports and…

Whatever stage you are in, these three steps will help you be honest and clear:

Step 1: Recognize
Learn to listen to your feelings. Learn to recognize when you cross a boundary. Whether that be physical or mental. Better yet, learn to recognize it before crossing the border.

Step 2: Acknowledge
Put it on the table. By pronouncing it literally you recognize that the feeling is there and may be. By acknowledging and naming it, space is also created to solve it. You can’t change something if you don’t put it on the table.

Step 3: Explore
In the last step you will explore a solution. What are the possibilities? Where can you slide? Say no? say yes? Ask for help?

Do you find yourself full? That you have to hold up too many balls? Recognize the signals, acknowledge it by opening it up for discussion and explore the options. What can you stop doing? Who can help you? What do you get energy from?

The next time you find yourself trying to cram something into your calendar because you want to be nice when you already know it’s not feasible, remember the words of Brené Brown Clear is Kind. Be honest and clear and with that also loving towards yourself and the other.

Where and when do you choose Clear is a kind from now on?


PART 1: What is this ‘connection with yourself’?
By Evi Dekker-Weger (New Mama’s)

More and more we hear about the connection we have with ourselves and that this can help to discover and express our authentic self, but what is this connection actually? How can we find it? And how do we know that we are actually connected with ourselves and make decisions from there?

This is part 1 of a blog series of 3, and in this part I will answer all the questions above and share useful tips with you on how to not only connect and strengthen the connection with yourself more often, but also how you can tap into the wisdom within you to approach difficult decisions and challenges in the right way for you.

Before we get started with practical tips and clarifying exercises, I would like to take you through what this ‘connection with yourself’ actually is and how you can consciously recognize it.

Questions to yourself
Just as you have relationships with the people around you, you also have a very important relationship with yourself. While we are usually aware of the relationships with our family, friends and acquaintances, we are less often aware of the relationship we have with ourselves and how we shape it. To look at it consciously, you could therefore ask yourself the following questions, for example:

– How do I talk to myself?
– How do I make myself feel?
– What do the decisions I make affect myself?
– How do I treat myself compared to other relationships?
– What do I do to make the relationship with myself fun and loving?

Besides the fact that we can pay much more attention to these questions and the relationship with ourselves, by asking these questions we also seek the connection with the deeper layers of ourselves and our core: the place where our deep, inexhaustible, inner wisdom is hidden. . There you will find the answers to all your questions, to all those questions that only you can answer, to all those decisions that only you can make.

This is also the reason why I think it is so important to share this with you. If you know how to use the connection with yourself to answer your life questions in your own way and thus dare to trust your inner wisdom more and more, then you have everything in your hands to be able to live your most authentic life. With this you not only enrich your own life, but also the life of your environment and you can create a ‘ripple effect’ for everyone on this earth, which you may not even be aware of.

Enjoy the process
But now back to the connection and how you can investigate whether you live and act in connection with your authentic self. Before I tell you more about it, something important: So far I have not met anyone who is always completely in touch with himself and who only and completely dares to trust his or her inner compass. So if you are reading this now, if you feel that you have become disconnected from yourself or that you are currently completely disconnected – that is totally okay and normal. Allow yourself to embrace this and take small steps from this place. How nice is it if you experience more connection in a while and how great if you can consciously start this whole process now! Give yourself time, relax and enjoy the new discoveries that come your way.

Create the life that suits you
We often organize our lives according to what seems logical, to what we can understand and we solve challenges by using our smart mind. There is of course nothing wrong with this, only there is a lot more outside our heads. There are many more processes, connections and solutions that are beyond our heads and that we cannot understand at first with the logical tools that we are given.

Perhaps you recognize the following: You have a feeling about something or in a kind of flash of thought something comes to your mind. It makes you happy and enthusiastic, but you also immediately think of 10 reasons why it is not possible, why it is inconvenient, why it is not the right time, why it will not work and why it is better not to do it. Often this is the end of our beautiful inspiration and we move on with our lives.

If that feels good to you and if you’re not curious about what would happen if you gave that idea a chance, then that’s perfectly fine, of course, but – and I know that from experience, and I’m sure you should too – it’s not. always like this. Maybe your hunch will come back to your mind a little more often or things will happen that try to bring you back and ask you to pay more attention to it. And then I would like to encourage you to investigate and fully understand and feel what you are allowed to do.

Do you get – despite all the doubts, worries and fears – very excited and happy when you think about it? Then try one

to take a step in this direction. And also feel what happens in you when you think about leaving it and not examining it. Does that feel nice and relaxed or do you feel a kind of disappointment coming on?

Personally, I often describe the connection with myself, the connection with my inner wisdom as a soft but at the same time powerful voice or feeling that is very clear, loving and clear, but often also illogical – something that I cannot fully understand in my head.

While I experience the thoughts from my head as logical, sometimes somewhat unclear, strict orders, which I can fully follow and understand, but which often also arise from fear or uncertainty.

At the same time, trusting our inner wisdom takes courage, because we have to leave our comfort zone and often go against the advice of our environment, who cannot understand our decisions. As a result, we are quickly inclined to base decisions on our rational thoughts, in order to face less resistance from ourselves and our environment.

But as you know, you especially grow if you look up resistance and dare to leave your comfort zone – and then create your most beautiful life.

So living in connection with yourself is certainly not always the easiest way and you will encounter great doubts, challenges and resistance if you make the decision to follow your authentic path and your enthusiasm against all advice and logic. It takes courage and self-confidence and at the same time allows it to grow with every step you dare to take.

Living in connection with yourself not only means that you can create the most beautiful life for yourself, but also that you can have a huge positive impact on many other lives.

In connection with yourself, in connection with your inner wisdom, so much more is possible than the smartest mind could ever imagine – will you take the plunge?

In the next part of this series I will share three simple tips with you on how to strengthen the connection with yourself and in the last part I will discuss how you can deal with the challenges that a life in connection brings and how you will succeed – even if you experience resistance – to continue to follow your authentic path.

Do you already want to know more and get started with clarifying exercises and valuable tips? Then sign up for the free online masterclass CONNECTION – The connection with yourself, which you can follow wherever and whenever you need it.

Love and until the next blog,

Evi – New Mamas

IODINE, of great value to mom and her baby and a booster for feminine beauty and wisdom

IODINE, of great value to mom and her baby and a booster for feminine beauty and wisdom.
By Mariella Wehman, orthomolecular medical therapist – Atelier Vital

Iodine doesn’t sound that fancy. However, don’t underestimate iodine! Iodine is somewhat sacred as a building block for the thyroid hormones T3 and T4. These hormones are necessary for the proper functioning of the thyroid gland, an organ with a beautiful shape. It is shaped like angel wings. And why would that be? To protect you, if you ask me.

Iodine blesses you with femininity and wisdom. Your natural beauty is supported by it. Iodine is food for your thyroid gland. If you nourish your thyroid in the right way, it will shower you with thanks: beautiful skin, warmth, natural weight and mental peace.

Maybe you recognize yourself in the following: coldness in your nose, feet and fingers, unexplained weight gain, prone to depression, fatigue and dry skin, eyes and mouth? Or are you bothered by fluid retention, especially in your legs? There is a good chance that you have an iodine deficiency and that your thyroid gland is not functioning optimally.

The WHO shares that 37% of the Dutch population experiences an iodine deficiency. The chance that you belong to this is therefore quite real. Pregnant women in particular are an important risk group. When you are pregnant, your iodine requirement is increased to support the proper brain development of your unborn child. During the pregnancy, the need for thyroid hormones increases and there is a higher need for iodine. Optimal production of thyroid hormone is vital for the (brain) development of your unborn baby.

Post-natal care for your thyroid

There are a number of classic lifestyle issues that negatively affect the functioning of our thyroid gland: taking a contraceptive pill, prolonged stress and periods in which you sleep less. If you recently became a mom, these themes are very topical in your life. Taking care of your baby often goes together with worrying about your baby, your role, your relationship; which in turn causes stress. It is inevitably you will sleep less after the birth of your baby. Are you breastfeeding? Then you experience that, albeit with a lot of love, you also give energy to your child through breast milk and that you definitely need more nutrients. Unfortunately, an increased chance of unbalancing your thyroid gland.

So, are you pregnant or have you just given birth? Then you now know that you can give your thyroid some extra attention.

For everyone else, certain lifestyle choices can create a disturbance in the absorption of iodine in the body. The consumption of soy products, the intake of aspirins, active sports (through sweating) and a vegetarian lifestyle also cause an iodine deficiency.

Dear mom, and dear mom to be, what can you do to make your thyroid gland work for you to maintain your femininity and wisdom and to support the growth of your child?

Take the Sups RISE or Sups MOM TO BE daily for a dose of vitamins and minerals crucial: iodine, selenium, vitamin D, zinc and B12. Both supjes contain the wonderful daily recommended dosage of iodine of 150 µg. If you are pregnant or breastfeeding, your daily dose of iodine may contain as much as 200 µg. So feel free to supplement with food such as seaweed pasta, food from the sea such as cod, mussels, kelp, (organic) eggs and (organic) Full Milk.

If you read this you will also understand why I think the Sups MOM TO BE supplement is a very valuable maternity gift for your sister or girlfriend! She will be so grateful to you for it, and so will her partner and baby.

A woman empowers a woMOM!


Maca, a natural mult vitamin

Maca, a natural mult vitamin
By Mariella Wehman, orthomolecular medical therapist – Atelier Vitaal

“Maca”: the word is somewhat mystical. Exotic too. But despite its magical effects, Maca is “just” a root vegetable. But one with very special properties. Medicinal even. I will tell you how you can benefit optimally from these properties.

Another word for Maca could be “multivitamin” or “energizer”. The benefits that you experience almost immediately after taking Maca are enormous. For women, but also for men. A true gift from Mother Nature, who knows what we need. After all, she created us herself and therefore provides us with only the very best.

Maca (Latin: Lepidium meyenii) grows in the Peruvian Andes Mountains. The Incas used it as a natural stimulant. And that is not without reason. The tuber’s underground stems, whose roots resemble a radish, store nutrients for times of scarcity. Nutrients where you can benefit greatly from! Especially when you are going through rough times. In the event of a setback, an imbalance can arise in several areas, mentally and physically. This can manifest itself in, for example, fatigue, hormone fluctuations and even gloominess. And of course you want to prevent that!

Insight into energy providers and energy guzzlers is crucial. Only when you know what nourishes or harmes your body & mind, you can anticipate problems and offer your body solutions. This offers advantages, for both yourself and your environment. Because how you feel affects the roles you have in life. For example as a mother, partner, girlfriend or colleague.

A crucial role in your hormone balance

We quickly attribute many physical and mental complaints to (a disruption) in our hormone system. And often this is indeed (part of) the cause. What many people don’t know is that you can influence your hormone balance. And thus your energy balance and well-being. Balanced nutrition is the basis for this. and Maca can play a crucial role in this.

Why? Maca gives you wings. Really! Thanks to its very high nutritional values.
Maca contains a hefty dose of B1, B2, vitamins C, E, iron, calcium, magnesium, zinc and iodine. It also contains a lot of fiber, which contributes to a healthy intestinal flora. And that is very important! Because vitality starts in your intestines. The absorption of nutrients, a good hormone balance, becoming and staying vital to pregnancy; in all these processes you need a healthy intestinal flora.

Mystical customization

Does Maca have anything mystical about it? Oh yes! Maca provides you a customized treatment. As an adaptogen, it stimulates the production of hormones or, where necessary, slows it down. In other words; Maca continuously ensures a good balance. A few days after taking it you will notice that Maca is doing its job. You feel more energetic, cheerful and more happy. This helps you to lower your stress level, increases your stamina and even increases your iron levels. Bye anemia! Thanks to the 18 vegetable amino acids that Maca contains, Maca even has a positive effect on the production of muscle tissue. That literally and figuratively makes you the most powerful version of yourself! And as icing on the cake, Maca also has an exotic touch. It increases the libido and fertility of both men and women! A true gift.

And how does Maca actually taste? Caramelly with a soft, nutty flavor.

Preferably take your BALANCE capsule with a green smoothie or mix it with your oatmeal breakfast, for example. This ensures better absorption in your intestines and strengthens the effect of the ingredients.

Recipe with Balance

A treat for yourself: Cacao-Maca Latte.

Mix oat milk with two teaspoons of raw cocoa powder
and the powder from the BALANCE capsule
in a milk frother. Instant energy!

Happy Balance, happy MOM!